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How to stop worrying
Worrying is just a habit and habits can be changed, so
if you must worry or talk about your problems allocate
a worry time. Set a time each day in which you can worry
to your heart's content. You can juggle figures, talk
about your problems, ring or write to your creditors,
monitor your spending, generally worry as much as you
like. One hour a day, that's all. The rest of the day
you will focus on the things that you want, and act and
speak positively.
The next week you do the same thing only for 50 minutes
a day. Each week reduce your worry time by 10 minutes,
so that after six weeks there should be no more time allocated
for worrying.
You cannot change a habit without having a new behaviour
to put in its place, so have some inspirational audios
to listen to instead, say affirmations, or find something
positive to talk about.
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The five most important words a leader can speak are:
“I am proud of you.”
The four most important are: “What is your opinion?”
The three most important are: “If you please.”
The two most important are: “Thank you.”
And the most important single word of all is: “You!”
—Denis Waitley
Reproduced with permission from the Denis Waitley
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Angeles Arrien, a cultural anthropologist,
says that four ingredients are required for healing and
happiness and they are singing, moving (dancing, sports),
story telling (sharing with others) and silence.
Think back to a time when you were younger and happier,
didn’t you share with your friends more? Didn’t you dance
more? Didn’t you sing more? I know I did.
I believe that as we get older we
often drop these things from our lives, including sharing.
Sharing, as long as we don’t repeat our stories over and
over helps us to release and move forward.
Anne Hartley
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Motives and fears run deep. Study
them in others. The manager who supports you and comforts
you when you’re down may like you best when you are in
just that state: down and dependent. When you start succeeding
beyond his expectations and comfort level, he may be among
the first to get you to back off, limit your horizons
and lower your goals. Recognize this feedback for the
insecurity it is. It will rarely be objective or well-intentioned.
Even parents and significant family
members aren’t immune to emotional conflicts that can
pollute their feedback. Many relatives and siblings have
difficulty accepting the success of others in the family
or encouraging further success.
Ultimately, nobody is responsible
for your life but you. Nobody is accountable for your
actions but you. Therefore, nobody’s expectations for
you and opinions about you are as important as your own.
So make sure your opinions take precedence in your mind
over all others, and when you do need to consult with
someone else, think very carefully before you choose exactly
who.
Denis Waitley
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David Ogilvy, founder of giant advertising agency, Ogilvy
and Mather, used to give each new manager a Russian doll,
which contained five progressively smaller dolls inside.
A message inside the smallest one read: "If each
of us hires people we consider smaller than ourselves,
we shall become a company of dwarves. But if each of us
hires people who are bigger than we are, we will become
a company of giants."
Denis Waitley
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I often work with clients until
they achieve their goal. Then, six to nine months later
some clients ring seeking help again because they have
gone off track. As I document all of the homework I give
my client I simply look up their file and ask questions.
In every case the client has stopped doing the things
that made him/her successful in the first place. So I
go over it again and help them re-establish a routine
to get them back on track.
Now I suggest to my clients that
they keep a ‘what works for me’ journal. In this journal
they record all of the habits they establish that make
their life work better. Then, whenever they slip back,
all they need to do is refer to their journal.
Anne Hartley
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People listened to Warren Buffet’s
advice because he was rich but in 1999 he went against
the trend when he predicted the downfall of Internet stocks.
To many he became a ‘has been’ and a laughing stock, but
Warren kept saying, “I know it’s going to change I just
don’t know when”.
Buffet’s predictions were later
proven to be correct and he attributes his success to
his ‘inner scorecard’, which is his ability to follow
his inner guidance and not be swayed by other people’s
opinions. Warren says, “If all the emphasis is on what
the world’s going to think about you, you’ll wind up with
an Outer Scorecard”.
Warren’s ability to trust himself
has made him the second richest man in the world and no
matter how much money he gives away, he just keeps getting
richer.
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Angeles Arrien, a cultural anthropologist, says that four
ingredients are required for healing and happiness and
they are singing, moving (dancing, sports), story telling
(sharing with others) and silence.
Think back to a time when you were younger and happier,
didn’t you share with your friends more? Didn’t you dance
more? Didn’t you sing more? I know I did.
I believe that as we get older we
often drop these things from our lives, including sharing.
Sharing, as long as we don’t repeat our stories over and
over helps us to release and move forward.
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Improve your body language. Stand
erect yet relaxed. Walk purposefully but without arrogance.
Your jaw and face should be relaxed, your eyes bright
and in direct contact with others while in conversation,
your pronunciation should be clear, your voice projecting
confidence and intensity. Always extend your hand and
offer your own name first in any personal encounter --
and offer your name first in phone conversations. Smile
with your eyes, voice, face and body language. In every
language, a smile is a light in your window that says
a caring person resides within.
So this week stand tall and SMILE -- it will do wonders
for you and give light to those around you!
Denis Waitley
Reproduced with permission from the Denis Waitley Ezine.
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