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Ask For What You Want
Statistic show that only five per cent of people actually
achieve their new year's resolutions and that's because
most people's habits don't support their intention.
One habit which always supports you is to ask for what
you want. You could ask: someone to help you, for ideas,
for support, for a discount, for a reduced loan rate or
a job. Whenever you ask you also need to assume the person
you are asking will say “Yes”. If you ask for help expecting
someone to refuse you set yourself up to fail. Most likely
some people will say refuse your request, but you haven’t
lost anything. The important thing is not to take any
refusals personally.
Nearly everyone doubts themselves at time, this is when
it helps to ask other people to support you. For more
than twenty years now I have asked course participants
to share a goal they want to achieve within the twelve
months with the group. Then I ask at least one person,
and sometimes more if it’s a small group, to support that
person’s intention for at least thirty days. The way people
support each other is usually through prayer, meditation,
saying affirmations, or by visualising the outcome. Some
go a little further and contact each other on a regular
basis. The combined group energy of two or more people
can help you move forward where alone you might struggle.
I’ve seen some amazing results from this exercise.
One woman who did a course with me was struggling financially.
Her money was tied up in property which she was unable
to sell. Every day, thinking she was being proactive she
would ring the estate agent, contact creditors and look
for ways to get the properties to sell. I asked her to
stop doing all of that as I felt she was focusing on the
problem. I suggested she shift her focus to making plans
for what she would do once the properties were sold. She
made plans for her new business, planned a holiday and
relaxed more. The group supported her intention and gave
thanks that she had sold the properties. In one week two
properties sold for the price she wanted. These properties
had been on the market for six months.
Another woman needed a new car but was unable to borrow
the money. The group focused on this woman driving her
own car and shortly afterwards her mother-in-law, decided
to pass her old car onto her when she bought herself a
new one.
I do caution you though to only share your dreams with
people who unconditionally support you. If you need another
person’s approval before proceeding, your dream is being
motivated by ego. If you start to doubt yourself because
of something another person might say or do, it’s best
to keep your dream to yourself.
There is a huge difference energetically between, I think,
I wish, I want, I hope and I know. When you act as if
you know all things are possible you can move mountains.
Even when you doubt yourself the energy of a group of
people focusing on a goal can help you to find a way where
there appears to be no way.
Dennis Waitley says:
“Habits begin as offhanded remarks, ideas and images.
And then, layer upon layer, through practice, they grow
from cobwebs into cables that shackle or strengthen our
lives. Habits are like submarines. They run silent and
deep.
First we make our habits, then our habits make us. Habits
are like comfortable beds. They are easy to get into,
but difficult to get out of.
“Winning and losing are both learned habits.”
Your habits either support you or sabotage you. So stop
and think about what habits you can establish this year
that will bring more joy into your life. If you need help
find yourself a good life coach as a good life coach is
someone who supports you and your goal unconditionally.
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